Couples Therapy

Things started falling apart.

Ben* and Jacki* got married three years ago. Their relationship was strong, the ceremony was beautiful and they were ready to live happily ever after.

Then COVID happened, and lockdown got the best of them. After working from home with a one-year-old and no support, they are ready to throw in the towel.

Jacki gets annoyed by what Ben thinks are minor little things causing screaming wars. They both said they’d never fight in front of their kids. But here they are, yelling, slamming doors and saying things they wish they could take back.

The relationship is on the rocks.

Jacki cringes at the thought of being touched by Ben. Sometimes, she gives in, but she doesn’t enjoy it – Ben can tell. He feels like he is forcing her, and Jacki feels like it’s an obligation.

Ben is tired of being turned down, so he never even initiates sex anymore. Ben sleeps in the baby’s room, and Jacki sleeps with the baby – sex life is non-existent.

Jacki is sick of Ben’s drinking. It reminds her of her parents, and she feels resentful each night watching Ben pour a drink when he finishes work for the day. They are both terrified to speak the truth because it might end in another heated fight or someone threatening to leave.

This relationship is not the happily ever after that Jacki and Ben envisioned.

What if you do nothing?

Nothing changes if nothing changes – at least nothing for the better.

The fighting continues. And the time between fights gets shorter and shorter. The arguments themselves get louder and louder – with more threats, anger and tears.

All passion is lost. Jacki and Ben feel like roommates raising a child. They feel bored and start to explore other options. One of them finds someone else, and the other is devastated.

There is a messy divorce, and now, they only get to see their baby half the time.

This scenario is your worst nightmare!

Alternatively, you decide to make a change.

One of you picks up the phone and reaches out for help. You schedule an appointment with your therapist, and it feels scary because you don’t know what to expect. You are afraid of what your partner might say and terrified of what you might say! “It would be easier to end things” is a thought that comes into your mind.

The first few sessions are hard. You don’t want to be there, but it gets easier. Through therapy, you learn how to communicate, stop the cycle leading to fights and set healthy boundaries.

As a couple, you practice having hard conversations in the office to have them without escalation in the future. You learn about each other’s love languages and talk about how to rekindle the spark. Finally, you set some time aside to have a date night.

You fell in love once, and you can fall in love again. We can help both of you find a solution and learn to communicate.

*Names changed to protect client confidentiality.